A letter….

Ok, so this is going to be a slightly unusual post for me… I guess I don’t know what a usual one is, so never mind.

A little while ago, some friends of mine went to a purity conference and they said that they really enjoyed it. I really wanted to go, but due to some complications I ended up not going. But they brought back a letter that I felt I should show to my readers. It’s a letter that an unknown young man wrote to his future wife. It is a good challenge, and reinforces some godly principles that need to be heard in this world of ours.

To my future wife,

This may seem a little weird. I don't know who you are, what you look like, or even your name. I don't know if I've met you yet, or if you are someone I'll meet in the future. I do know this, you are God's gift to me; you are a treasure and you will be the love of my life. You are my future wife. Because of everything that I know you will mean to me, there are some things that I want to talk to you about right now. First, is that I love God with all my heart and I'm keeping myself sexually pure for you, despite the very real temptations that are there. The things I want to discuss with you are your purity, your modesty, and your self-worth.

I want you always to remember that you are God's. You are God's before you are mine, and you are God's even before you are your own. Because you are His, everything in your life is a GIFT from God, including your purity. I have been keeping myself for you. I want to be the man that God has for you: His gift for your patience, and I know that you will be that same gift for me. The value of that gift lies in its completeness. Your purity is so much more precious the more that lies untouched. It may be easy and even somewhat fulfilling to give yourself to the boys around you for a temporary love, but God will bless you for keeping your gift of purity for me because of your unconditional love for Him.

Next is your modesty. Boys can be taken away so easily by the lusts of their eyes. The more of your body you show, the more lust you draw to yourself. My desire for you is that you keep your body as a temple and treat it as a temple. Tight clothes, low cut shirts, and short shorts just give other boys a preview of what God intends to be mine and mine alone. Your worth comes not from your body, but from you character and your relationship with God. If you have to show yourself to boys to attract them, then you will not be attracting the right man. The man I am, and the man I desire to be, will be attracted to you because of your love for God, because of your character, and not by how much of yourself you are willing to show.

The last thing I want to talk to you about is your self-worth. You are a treasure and you are a gem. You are a gift from God. That is where your self-worth lies; in knowing that you are God's. Your worth doesn't come from love that I or any other person can give you, but your worth comes from delighting in God. I can tell you that your worth comes from God, but you have to feel and know that for yourself. That is the big deal about your purity and your modesty. I want you to not be ashamed when you give yourself to me. I want you to be able to proudly give yourself to me after our wedding day. Knowing that you kept yourself pure, as I have, and that because of your love for God and your love for me, we can give each other the gift of our purity; wholly intact. I want you to know that you are my love, you are my treasure, you are my gift from God, and I can't wait for the day that I can see you face to face and say "I do."

With Love,

Your Future Husband

There it is! I hope it encouraged you and challenged you the way it did for me! God may or may not intend all of you singles to marry, but this is a good letter to keep in mind, because you never know what God might have planned for you! It’s an exciting adventure, this life of ours, but it will be all the more exhilarating if you hold on tight to the hand of God.

Shalom